As I went through my online platform today, the news was every where. It was trending and lots of stuffs were said about this icon that has passed through the last phase of life's tunnel into the world beyond. He was Muhammed Ali also nicknamed THE GREATEST. He at the early hours of June 3rd 2016, haven suffered respiratory illness, complicated by Parkinson's disease departed this world. He was aged 74 years.
Ali M would be remembered for his boxing skills and great quotes. He won 56 of his 61 fights and there has not being another like him. He was an icon to be reckoned with. Life teaches us that whatever we find doing, must be done with the utmost desire from us to be the best.
Your life after a job, career or permanent exist should be a referral to others. If you are not making an impact where you are, it's never too late to start.
Below are his famous quotes as coined form LinkedIn as posted by "Christopher Schroeder".
1. I know where I am going and I know the truth and don't have to be what you want me to be. I am free to be what I want .
2. I should be a postage stamp. That's the only way i will ever get licked.
3. What you are thinking is what you are becoming.
4. Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they have been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact, it's an opinion. It is not a declaration, it's a dare. Impossible is potential. Its temporary. It's nothing.
5. He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life.
6. Champions aren't made in gyms, they are made from something they have deep inside them.
7. It isn't the mountains ahead to climb that wears you out, it's the pebble in your shoe.
8. Don't count the days, make the days count.
9. Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It is not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship , you really haven't learnt anything .
10. Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth.
Adieu THE GREATEST.
Saturday, 4 June 2016
Friday, 27 May 2016
Happy children's day!!!!
I woke up this morning full of life and happy and I really could not explain why, then I remembered that today is children's day by the continuous jingles and songs coming from the TV.
At about 1pm, I decided to go give myself a treat and was taken aback by the number of children I found at the fast food I visited. After much "excuse me" i was able to find a space at the extreme of the place and I fed my eyes for some time.
Oh my! Children would always be children. I laughed , giggle and almost jumped out of my seat at their activities. Parents making sure their children had fun were seen everywhere while a school brought some students and gave them a treat.
I was quite impressed at steps taken by parents and guardians to ensure their children had a special day. The management of the place gave out free snacks and Ice cream to any child that came to the place. A lot of less privileged children had free ice cream and snacks and you can see them in their numbers expentant and very happy. Am sure most of them have not had such opportunities before to enter this fast food .
Also, an artist by a corner was giving the children beautiful shapes on their faces to mark the day, while some were busy watching cartoons. It was quite a site to behold as children from different religions came to enjoy themselves.
These and much more are what we as individuals are supposed to do to ensure our children are happy especially on a day set aside for them. We need to keep protecting them from the visititude of life. Shield them from crime, violence and child abuse and show them much love.
We need these children to grow into responsible adults who would be able to take over from the next generation . We need them intact. So let's protect and pray for our children.
Happy children's day.
At about 1pm, I decided to go give myself a treat and was taken aback by the number of children I found at the fast food I visited. After much "excuse me" i was able to find a space at the extreme of the place and I fed my eyes for some time.
Oh my! Children would always be children. I laughed , giggle and almost jumped out of my seat at their activities. Parents making sure their children had fun were seen everywhere while a school brought some students and gave them a treat.
I was quite impressed at steps taken by parents and guardians to ensure their children had a special day. The management of the place gave out free snacks and Ice cream to any child that came to the place. A lot of less privileged children had free ice cream and snacks and you can see them in their numbers expentant and very happy. Am sure most of them have not had such opportunities before to enter this fast food .
Also, an artist by a corner was giving the children beautiful shapes on their faces to mark the day, while some were busy watching cartoons. It was quite a site to behold as children from different religions came to enjoy themselves.
These and much more are what we as individuals are supposed to do to ensure our children are happy especially on a day set aside for them. We need to keep protecting them from the visititude of life. Shield them from crime, violence and child abuse and show them much love.
We need these children to grow into responsible adults who would be able to take over from the next generation . We need them intact. So let's protect and pray for our children.
Happy children's day.
Wednesday, 25 May 2016
Don't give up
Have you sat down and thought why people think without them you won't survive. Well I know a lot of people who have given up on life because someone out there you once trusted disappointed you. Some have even thrown in the towel believing there is no way out.
My question to them is have you forgotten when the bible said "do not put your trust in man or princes but in God". Well I don't think the writer of that portion in the bible made a mistake.
God most times uses men to bless other man but when he sees the glory due to him is being diverted,he steps in because he is too jealous a God to share his glory with man. Never for once think your life has ended when that person failed you or threw you out to no where. If the birds of the air don't struggle to eat and survive and the flowers we see today and tomorrow is withered, is clothed in beautiful colours don't struggle to be, do you think God would not make a way for you.
The scriptures said he would cause waters to flow in your desert. No matter what represent "a desert" around you, he would always make a way.
So dearest, don't give up, help is on the way just look up to God.
My question to them is have you forgotten when the bible said "do not put your trust in man or princes but in God". Well I don't think the writer of that portion in the bible made a mistake.
God most times uses men to bless other man but when he sees the glory due to him is being diverted,he steps in because he is too jealous a God to share his glory with man. Never for once think your life has ended when that person failed you or threw you out to no where. If the birds of the air don't struggle to eat and survive and the flowers we see today and tomorrow is withered, is clothed in beautiful colours don't struggle to be, do you think God would not make a way for you.
The scriptures said he would cause waters to flow in your desert. No matter what represent "a desert" around you, he would always make a way.
So dearest, don't give up, help is on the way just look up to God.
Would it get better?
A young man asked me how he can add extra cash to his account as he is new to the town. I read a story out to him and concluded by saying the answers you seek are everywhere and he responded with the word www.smart.com I could not help but laugh.
In this era of economic down time, increase in fuel price, scarcity of tomatoes, incesant killings by herds men and other menance plunging the economy, one has to stop and take a critical look at all that is happening. A lot of people are groaning to the struggling pains they feel. But the truth be told, no matter how much we complain, our economy can not be any better than it is. We just need to adjust and believe God to provide enough for us to live above it. So dear friends, are you wondering when would all this "sufferings" end or when would the country get better? Well I have news for you, it would only get worse by the day so you need to constantly tell your self that and tune to God almighty to grant you the enabling capacity to overcome whatever obstacles the economy throws at you because that's the only way out.
In this era of economic down time, increase in fuel price, scarcity of tomatoes, incesant killings by herds men and other menance plunging the economy, one has to stop and take a critical look at all that is happening. A lot of people are groaning to the struggling pains they feel. But the truth be told, no matter how much we complain, our economy can not be any better than it is. We just need to adjust and believe God to provide enough for us to live above it. So dear friends, are you wondering when would all this "sufferings" end or when would the country get better? Well I have news for you, it would only get worse by the day so you need to constantly tell your self that and tune to God almighty to grant you the enabling capacity to overcome whatever obstacles the economy throws at you because that's the only way out.
Monday, 29 February 2016
Yeepee it's Feb 29th
Oh my God did I almost miss blogging today being Feb 29th ? Nahhh. Anyways how are you darlings and happy February 29th.
Every four years is a leap year according to calendar readings and this is signified by the extra 24 hours added to the year and this extra day is found in February . Most February ends with with 28days but on unique years like 2016 it ends with 29days .
A lot of prophecies , speculations and all what not is said about this unique day.
Some say its the only time of the year were ladies are allowed to propose to a man (lol), some it's a special gift from God to do something extra since he gave us an extra 24 hours , while others see it from d spiritual angle it being a year of many deaths, doom and prosperity. The football world sees it as a time to play and watch world cup and some a time to upgrade.
Whatever believe you have about the leap year, I choose to see it from the positive side of life. It's a year of jubilee for as many that are held captive, of New levels in all spheres of life and unprecedented increase.
As you bid good bye to Feb 29th 2016, always remember to be grateful to almighty God because the next leap year is in 4 years time.
Catch yah
Every four years is a leap year according to calendar readings and this is signified by the extra 24 hours added to the year and this extra day is found in February . Most February ends with with 28days but on unique years like 2016 it ends with 29days .
A lot of prophecies , speculations and all what not is said about this unique day.
Some say its the only time of the year were ladies are allowed to propose to a man (lol), some it's a special gift from God to do something extra since he gave us an extra 24 hours , while others see it from d spiritual angle it being a year of many deaths, doom and prosperity. The football world sees it as a time to play and watch world cup and some a time to upgrade.
Whatever believe you have about the leap year, I choose to see it from the positive side of life. It's a year of jubilee for as many that are held captive, of New levels in all spheres of life and unprecedented increase.
As you bid good bye to Feb 29th 2016, always remember to be grateful to almighty God because the next leap year is in 4 years time.
Catch yah
Saturday, 13 February 2016
Valentine- the joy and pains
Tomorrow is Valentine's day and a whole lot of lovers are looking up to it. It's not because they don't celebrate love on a daily basis, the day just makes love shared between two lovers very special.
Going round saloons, gift shops, resturants, bars and boutique indicates ladies and gents are not taking the day for granted as everyone who has someone to share love with wants to look and be their best. The beauty of this year's Val day is that it's happening on a Sunday. A lot of memes have being created showing how guys would try to boycot their girl friends/fiancee/wives all in the name of being busy at church . Loooolll.
As the day brings joy and excitement amongst some people, others are hurting
This period if census is to be taken has the highest number of break ups as a lot of unfaithful partners would want to break up with the less significant ones in their lives to be with their most significant partners. This i believe is heartless of a person to do with who ever they once professed love to.
Well to the lucky ones who have their partners by their sides come tomorrow, happy Valentine's day to you both. Pls if you are not married, don't do it. Tie your legs like a mermaid" side eyes to anyone planning to fornicate " .
To all the sweet heart out there, male or female without a boo or bea, please don't feel alone not having a val . There are 1000 of you out there not having and as I put up in my display picture an inscription I found online, "don't feel bad if on Valentine's day you do not have a Valentine because people celebrate Aids day without having Aids. So dearies relax. It's not the end of the world. Better days are ahead.
Happy vals day visitors. Kisses to you.
Going round saloons, gift shops, resturants, bars and boutique indicates ladies and gents are not taking the day for granted as everyone who has someone to share love with wants to look and be their best. The beauty of this year's Val day is that it's happening on a Sunday. A lot of memes have being created showing how guys would try to boycot their girl friends/fiancee/wives all in the name of being busy at church . Loooolll.
As the day brings joy and excitement amongst some people, others are hurting
This period if census is to be taken has the highest number of break ups as a lot of unfaithful partners would want to break up with the less significant ones in their lives to be with their most significant partners. This i believe is heartless of a person to do with who ever they once professed love to.
Well to the lucky ones who have their partners by their sides come tomorrow, happy Valentine's day to you both. Pls if you are not married, don't do it. Tie your legs like a mermaid" side eyes to anyone planning to fornicate " .
To all the sweet heart out there, male or female without a boo or bea, please don't feel alone not having a val . There are 1000 of you out there not having and as I put up in my display picture an inscription I found online, "don't feel bad if on Valentine's day you do not have a Valentine because people celebrate Aids day without having Aids. So dearies relax. It's not the end of the world. Better days are ahead.
Happy vals day visitors. Kisses to you.
Wednesday, 13 January 2016
Heart cries 5
I had being interviewing quite a number of people for a position on behalf of an organisation and since I started on Monday I have being lamenting about our educational system.
An applicant parading him or her self as a graduate cannot express themselves or even write a simple application letter; when they eventually write the letter, there are a lot of errors in their spellings and some can't even write well. Hmmmm. It's so pathetic.
I kept asking myself how they were able to graduate from the university when they cannot construct a simple sentence. Some even think their carriage or beauty can fetch them jobs.
I sincerely wish something is done about our educational system so we don't loose sight of the quality of graduates we produce, all in the name of ensuring a large number graduate from school every year.
I believe everyone out there can do something extra to enhance their writing and speaking skills before we groom a generation that can't coordinate themselves intellectually and as a colleague said today, "I won't pamper my children when it comes to their education. They have to be very good and prove they merited a new class before they are allowed to move to that next class". We must study to show our selves approved; so says the bible.
We have so many half baked lawyers, accountants, doctors, etc out there and it's only a matter of time before we realise a state of emergency should be called for our educational system.
It's such a pity......."very sad"
An applicant parading him or her self as a graduate cannot express themselves or even write a simple application letter; when they eventually write the letter, there are a lot of errors in their spellings and some can't even write well. Hmmmm. It's so pathetic.
I kept asking myself how they were able to graduate from the university when they cannot construct a simple sentence. Some even think their carriage or beauty can fetch them jobs.
I sincerely wish something is done about our educational system so we don't loose sight of the quality of graduates we produce, all in the name of ensuring a large number graduate from school every year.
I believe everyone out there can do something extra to enhance their writing and speaking skills before we groom a generation that can't coordinate themselves intellectually and as a colleague said today, "I won't pamper my children when it comes to their education. They have to be very good and prove they merited a new class before they are allowed to move to that next class". We must study to show our selves approved; so says the bible.
We have so many half baked lawyers, accountants, doctors, etc out there and it's only a matter of time before we realise a state of emergency should be called for our educational system.
It's such a pity......."very sad"
Friday, 1 January 2016
Welcome to 2016
At 9.46pm on 31st December 2015, I was at my church to usher me into the New year. Music and a lot of prayers with prophecies were said and spoken by the officiating ministers and about 5 minutes to the New year, we were led into a hot praise section and before we finished singing one of the praise songs, the count down timer buzzed happy New year and everyone screamed, hugged, laughed and wished each other a happy New year.
Well you may have had your experience into the New year but permit me to offically wish you a happy New year. Welcome to 2016. I believe it's going to be a great year for us if we belief and anchor to the main source of our strength.
The year is like a new note pad with 365 blank pages; what do you intend to write on yours? The year is very fresh and pregnant. Be positive and hopeful for it is a fruitful year for us all and i know that God keeping us alife, come 31st Dec 2016, we would look back and count the blessings and great accomplishments we attained this new year.
Enjoy your new year and please take a seat behind the 2016 train. It's going to be an interesting ride. "Shines teeth"
Well you may have had your experience into the New year but permit me to offically wish you a happy New year. Welcome to 2016. I believe it's going to be a great year for us if we belief and anchor to the main source of our strength.
The year is like a new note pad with 365 blank pages; what do you intend to write on yours? The year is very fresh and pregnant. Be positive and hopeful for it is a fruitful year for us all and i know that God keeping us alife, come 31st Dec 2016, we would look back and count the blessings and great accomplishments we attained this new year.
Enjoy your new year and please take a seat behind the 2016 train. It's going to be an interesting ride. "Shines teeth"
Wednesday, 30 December 2015
The count down has begun
Hooooohoooooo, merry belated Christmas BVs, am sure you all would be wondering why the long silence. Well that na gist for another day.
Anyways on 25th December 2015 as early as 5.30am, i put a call across to all my loved ones and i holla the hooohoooo merry Christmas to everyone ; you need to hear the excitment from the other end of the conversation.
Christmas is a wonderful period for sharing, showing love and being with loved ones. A lot of activities always accompany this period with a chilly weather if you stay in areas prone to harmattan here in Nigeria.
Churches organise Christmas drama and Carol nights with everyone dressing to the occasion (green, red and hold attires with varities of christmas head wares) This amongst others makes December a very unique period in the year. Aside the celebrations, it's also a time were a lot of people take out time to reflect on the outgoing year, their achievements, mistakes, lessons learnt and progress made.
Now my beloved readers today being the 30th December 2015, is a day to the end of 2015. Have you taken out time to reflect on the outgoing year or you are waiting for the usual "church" retreat before you take out time to do the needful?
Well, as we begin the count down to 2016, take out time before 11.59pm 31st Dec 2015 to take a stock of the year and appreciate God no matter where you are or what you have and thank him for being alife.
Happy count down darlyns. ....6.16pm 30th December 2015....keep countingggg *shines teeth*
Anyways on 25th December 2015 as early as 5.30am, i put a call across to all my loved ones and i holla the hooohoooo merry Christmas to everyone ; you need to hear the excitment from the other end of the conversation.
Christmas is a wonderful period for sharing, showing love and being with loved ones. A lot of activities always accompany this period with a chilly weather if you stay in areas prone to harmattan here in Nigeria.
Churches organise Christmas drama and Carol nights with everyone dressing to the occasion (green, red and hold attires with varities of christmas head wares) This amongst others makes December a very unique period in the year. Aside the celebrations, it's also a time were a lot of people take out time to reflect on the outgoing year, their achievements, mistakes, lessons learnt and progress made.
Now my beloved readers today being the 30th December 2015, is a day to the end of 2015. Have you taken out time to reflect on the outgoing year or you are waiting for the usual "church" retreat before you take out time to do the needful?
Well, as we begin the count down to 2016, take out time before 11.59pm 31st Dec 2015 to take a stock of the year and appreciate God no matter where you are or what you have and thank him for being alife.
Happy count down darlyns. ....6.16pm 30th December 2015....keep countingggg *shines teeth*
Thursday, 3 December 2015
Lessons from the life of an eagle.
Have you ever seen an eagle soaring round the sky? Well I bet most people would respond that they rarely see the eagle. The reason being that the eagle has a class of its own and it's admired by all. It also symbolises power, freedom and transcendence. They posses unique characteristics that we can learn from and these included
A. Vision: they have specially designed eyes for long distance focus and clarity. We must have vision about the future, which guided and leads us towards our personal goals.
B. Fearlessness: Eagles will never surrender to the size of strength of its prey. To be successful, we must be fearless and face out problems head on without giving in to depression or discouragement.
C. Tenancity: they take advantage of every storm that lesser birds fear and hide for cover for. When we are faced with lots of challenges, instead of hiding or running from it, let's face it head on as it leads us to rise to greater heights.
D. Eagles are flyers and do not mingle with pigeons. Dr Myles Munroe said pigeons grumble and complain all day long but the eagle fly and make less noise , wait it for opportunities to strike their next prey or glide with the current of the storm. In the face of difficulties, let's find opportunities in it.
E. Eagles do not eat dead meat but fresh meat from the prey it kills itself. To grow , spend time with people who are vibrant and libral in thinking and she's off low lifers around you.
F . Vitality: At the age of to, an eagle 'd physical body condition deteriorates fast, making it difficult for them to survive. Instead of giving in, the eagle retreats to a mountain top and over a period of 6 months, it knocks off it's been by banging it against a rock, plucking off it's feathers and shedding off it's body parts for newer and stronger ones to grow out. This process allows the eagle to live for another 30 to 4p years.
There are times we need to go on retreats and cut off from every noise and distractions and spend time meditating and seeking to know God's plan for our lives.
How placed the eagle for us to learn a lesson from them , so we don't have an excuse why we are not succeeding . As the year comes to an and, find the time to go on a retreat to refresh every thing about you before you enter the New year.
A. Vision: they have specially designed eyes for long distance focus and clarity. We must have vision about the future, which guided and leads us towards our personal goals.
B. Fearlessness: Eagles will never surrender to the size of strength of its prey. To be successful, we must be fearless and face out problems head on without giving in to depression or discouragement.
C. Tenancity: they take advantage of every storm that lesser birds fear and hide for cover for. When we are faced with lots of challenges, instead of hiding or running from it, let's face it head on as it leads us to rise to greater heights.
D. Eagles are flyers and do not mingle with pigeons. Dr Myles Munroe said pigeons grumble and complain all day long but the eagle fly and make less noise , wait it for opportunities to strike their next prey or glide with the current of the storm. In the face of difficulties, let's find opportunities in it.
E. Eagles do not eat dead meat but fresh meat from the prey it kills itself. To grow , spend time with people who are vibrant and libral in thinking and she's off low lifers around you.
F . Vitality: At the age of to, an eagle 'd physical body condition deteriorates fast, making it difficult for them to survive. Instead of giving in, the eagle retreats to a mountain top and over a period of 6 months, it knocks off it's been by banging it against a rock, plucking off it's feathers and shedding off it's body parts for newer and stronger ones to grow out. This process allows the eagle to live for another 30 to 4p years.
There are times we need to go on retreats and cut off from every noise and distractions and spend time meditating and seeking to know God's plan for our lives.
How placed the eagle for us to learn a lesson from them , so we don't have an excuse why we are not succeeding . As the year comes to an and, find the time to go on a retreat to refresh every thing about you before you enter the New year.
Sunday, 29 November 2015
Let's hear from you 3
Just stumbled on this article n thought to share with married friends.
My name is Dayo. I’m a typical Nigerian guy and I cherish my Fridays a lot; I get to hang out with the sickest guys every Friday night and secondly, It’s another escape from my nagging and boring wife. I get confused sometimes on whether she’s my mother or my wife. Don’t get it twisted; I love her pieces. It just gets complicated; like I wish we never got married…marriage has turned her into something that doesn’t amuse me. I wish she was still the adventurous, charming, high spirited lady I dated for five years.
A lot of people say its unethical for married guys to be found in a club, but I wish everyone won’t be too quick to judge and understand that people look for fun to run away from their problems; they just want to breathe, like me.
I forgot to say that I work in Guarantee Trust Bank along Lekki, I love my job and my job loves me, maybe its because I’m the senior banking officer. Lol. This particular morning, a lady breezed into my office. My heart raced faster because I had not sighted anything this beautiful in a long while. She wasn’t the typical slender Barbie, in fact, she was a bit chubby but her smile, cuteness and…I was tripped.
“Hi Good morning! Your ATM has swallowed my card!” She laughed, unlike a typical customer that would ram you.
I just tried to form Boss laughter…
“Good morning, You know what? I’d personally make sure they get it out for you, but not today. Can you wait till Monday?” I smiled
“GTB shaaa! OK, can I just drop my number so you could call me up or just text when its ready so I don’t come twice? Please? My name is Nancy” She blinked her eyes in a funny way.
“Sure” I smiled
We exchanged numbers. What a lucky Friday!
So it was 10:00pm and I headed to the club…as usual my friends were chilling for me. My wife had called a couple of times, I just ignored it. She knows I’m never home Friday nights.
“Look at you!” I heard someone say. I raised my head and it was the ATM lady-Nancy.
“Wow, look at you too!” I was surprised to see her but I was happy I didn’t have to wait till Monday to see her again.
“Happy Friday!” She screamed because of the noise, “Wanna dance?”
I didn’t even have the chance to answer, she already pulled me to dance floor. I really suck at dancing but she helped me; she was a great dancer! I had fun! At some point we decided to go to a private area and we talked, ranging from work, business to personal life. I tried to hide my ring as much as possible, I certainly didn’t want this to end now.
“You are a really wonderful lady. You are so interesting…any guy would want to be with you all day” I said.
“I wasn’t always like this but I have learned the hard way that life is just too short to be sad” she sang
Then her phone rang…
“Hey baby! Yeah I’m at the private lounge, I’d like you to meet someone…alright boo” she talked excitedly as usual.
I was in shock until this tall handsome man walks up to her and kisses her.
“You were late. Meet Dayo; I met him this morning, he’s helping with your ATM I told you got swallowed and Dayo this is my B to the O-O,” she laughed “Meet my husband Kolade, we only come here to dance every fortnight Friday; away from work, stress and kids.”
“Wow, a pleasure” I managed to shake him
Then she stood now excitedly holding her husband’s arms.
“Why don’t we invite Dayo for Mimi’s 16th birthday tomorrow?” Her husband said
They have kids too? How long have they been married and they look like a couple just dating!
“Silly me, please come for my second daughter’s 16th tomorrow. It would be an honor” She brought out an I.V from her purse.
I began to feel so ashamed of myself…this was another guy like me, getting it right with one woman.
I collected the I.V and promised to be there.
“See you tomorrow! Have you had something to eat Kolade?” she talked and dragged her husband along.
They left and I kept staring at the thin air like I had seen a ghost. They come just to dance together every fortnight Fridays? Why didn’t I think of that! Temi loves to dance…she also likes long walks, she loves to talk…she loves jazz music, there’s this vivid picture I have of me putting her hand on my chest when we danced at a jazz club on our first year anniversary…I found myself typing all the things I knew Temi loved to do on my I pad and I realized I had denied her of all…I had made her the old woman she acts.
What the hell was I doing here! I didn’t even tell my friends goodbye, I walked out of the club into my Jaguar. Temi’s call came through and I picked at first ring.
“Temi?” My heart raced
“I know you are not coming home…”
“I am, stay up so we can gist. Been a while” I decided to do everything on that list and to even add many more for the rest of my lifetime with her.
“Are you alright?” She was shocked I suppose
“And I’d like us to go for a birthday party tomorrow. I want you to meet this amazing couple”
“You sound different Dayo”
“Maybe I’m different”
“Don’t say it! don’t say it! when you come we will gist very well” she laughed
She laughed!!! In just that laughter that I hadn’t heard in a while, she sounded like the lady I married six years ago…
Dear reader,
I wrote this natural piece just to remind us that creating memorable moments with our partner matters. Do you know that little things are the sweetest things? Just creating time to gist and laugh with your partner, having a day in the week that’s exclusively for you both-No friends or kids allowed.
Lady, when last have you told your partner he is so darn hot? Guy! When last have you told your lady she is the sweetest thing? When last have you whispered ‘Thank you’? When last have you been quick to say ‘I’m sorry’?
Do you even have a clue on what your partner loves to do?
When you ignore little things, they are the little pieces of rocks that build up to become a mountain you can’t easily break down.
Pay attention to little things, believe that they work and experience new bliss!
Excerpts from Facebook user.
My name is Dayo. I’m a typical Nigerian guy and I cherish my Fridays a lot; I get to hang out with the sickest guys every Friday night and secondly, It’s another escape from my nagging and boring wife. I get confused sometimes on whether she’s my mother or my wife. Don’t get it twisted; I love her pieces. It just gets complicated; like I wish we never got married…marriage has turned her into something that doesn’t amuse me. I wish she was still the adventurous, charming, high spirited lady I dated for five years.
A lot of people say its unethical for married guys to be found in a club, but I wish everyone won’t be too quick to judge and understand that people look for fun to run away from their problems; they just want to breathe, like me.
I forgot to say that I work in Guarantee Trust Bank along Lekki, I love my job and my job loves me, maybe its because I’m the senior banking officer. Lol. This particular morning, a lady breezed into my office. My heart raced faster because I had not sighted anything this beautiful in a long while. She wasn’t the typical slender Barbie, in fact, she was a bit chubby but her smile, cuteness and…I was tripped.
“Hi Good morning! Your ATM has swallowed my card!” She laughed, unlike a typical customer that would ram you.
I just tried to form Boss laughter…
“Good morning, You know what? I’d personally make sure they get it out for you, but not today. Can you wait till Monday?” I smiled
“GTB shaaa! OK, can I just drop my number so you could call me up or just text when its ready so I don’t come twice? Please? My name is Nancy” She blinked her eyes in a funny way.
“Sure” I smiled
We exchanged numbers. What a lucky Friday!
So it was 10:00pm and I headed to the club…as usual my friends were chilling for me. My wife had called a couple of times, I just ignored it. She knows I’m never home Friday nights.
“Look at you!” I heard someone say. I raised my head and it was the ATM lady-Nancy.
“Wow, look at you too!” I was surprised to see her but I was happy I didn’t have to wait till Monday to see her again.
“Happy Friday!” She screamed because of the noise, “Wanna dance?”
I didn’t even have the chance to answer, she already pulled me to dance floor. I really suck at dancing but she helped me; she was a great dancer! I had fun! At some point we decided to go to a private area and we talked, ranging from work, business to personal life. I tried to hide my ring as much as possible, I certainly didn’t want this to end now.
“You are a really wonderful lady. You are so interesting…any guy would want to be with you all day” I said.
“I wasn’t always like this but I have learned the hard way that life is just too short to be sad” she sang
Then her phone rang…
“Hey baby! Yeah I’m at the private lounge, I’d like you to meet someone…alright boo” she talked excitedly as usual.
I was in shock until this tall handsome man walks up to her and kisses her.
“You were late. Meet Dayo; I met him this morning, he’s helping with your ATM I told you got swallowed and Dayo this is my B to the O-O,” she laughed “Meet my husband Kolade, we only come here to dance every fortnight Friday; away from work, stress and kids.”
“Wow, a pleasure” I managed to shake him
Then she stood now excitedly holding her husband’s arms.
“Why don’t we invite Dayo for Mimi’s 16th birthday tomorrow?” Her husband said
They have kids too? How long have they been married and they look like a couple just dating!
“Silly me, please come for my second daughter’s 16th tomorrow. It would be an honor” She brought out an I.V from her purse.
I began to feel so ashamed of myself…this was another guy like me, getting it right with one woman.
I collected the I.V and promised to be there.
“See you tomorrow! Have you had something to eat Kolade?” she talked and dragged her husband along.
They left and I kept staring at the thin air like I had seen a ghost. They come just to dance together every fortnight Fridays? Why didn’t I think of that! Temi loves to dance…she also likes long walks, she loves to talk…she loves jazz music, there’s this vivid picture I have of me putting her hand on my chest when we danced at a jazz club on our first year anniversary…I found myself typing all the things I knew Temi loved to do on my I pad and I realized I had denied her of all…I had made her the old woman she acts.
What the hell was I doing here! I didn’t even tell my friends goodbye, I walked out of the club into my Jaguar. Temi’s call came through and I picked at first ring.
“Temi?” My heart raced
“I know you are not coming home…”
“I am, stay up so we can gist. Been a while” I decided to do everything on that list and to even add many more for the rest of my lifetime with her.
“Are you alright?” She was shocked I suppose
“And I’d like us to go for a birthday party tomorrow. I want you to meet this amazing couple”
“You sound different Dayo”
“Maybe I’m different”
“Don’t say it! don’t say it! when you come we will gist very well” she laughed
She laughed!!! In just that laughter that I hadn’t heard in a while, she sounded like the lady I married six years ago…
Dear reader,
I wrote this natural piece just to remind us that creating memorable moments with our partner matters. Do you know that little things are the sweetest things? Just creating time to gist and laugh with your partner, having a day in the week that’s exclusively for you both-No friends or kids allowed.
Lady, when last have you told your partner he is so darn hot? Guy! When last have you told your lady she is the sweetest thing? When last have you whispered ‘Thank you’? When last have you been quick to say ‘I’m sorry’?
Do you even have a clue on what your partner loves to do?
When you ignore little things, they are the little pieces of rocks that build up to become a mountain you can’t easily break down.
Pay attention to little things, believe that they work and experience new bliss!
Excerpts from Facebook user.
A grateful heart
Today at my church we had our end of year thanksgiving and it was awesome. People were dressed in their best to come and say thank you Lord.
In the midst of the paparazzi and show of thanks to God while dancing, I was reflecting back at a story in the bible that talks of the ten lepers. Now after they had being healed, nine of them didnt see the need to go back and say thank you ; but one did and he was the one that remebered where his help came from.
Dear visitors have you remembered to say thank you to that person who helped you at your lowest moments this year? What about your family , friends and associates. As we gradually wrap up this year, reflect back on those people who has helped you and put that call across or pay a visit just to say thank you.
A grateful heart never lacks . Now come join me as I dance and celebrate God for all he has done for me. "dancing ...na Godwin"
In the midst of the paparazzi and show of thanks to God while dancing, I was reflecting back at a story in the bible that talks of the ten lepers. Now after they had being healed, nine of them didnt see the need to go back and say thank you ; but one did and he was the one that remebered where his help came from.
Dear visitors have you remembered to say thank you to that person who helped you at your lowest moments this year? What about your family , friends and associates. As we gradually wrap up this year, reflect back on those people who has helped you and put that call across or pay a visit just to say thank you.
A grateful heart never lacks . Now come join me as I dance and celebrate God for all he has done for me. "dancing ...na Godwin"
Tuesday, 15 September 2015
AM SORRY
Humans were created to be different in their behaviour and personalities, which is why you can never find two people behaving the same way but in these diversities, we all fall short of each other's expectations, thereby offending and hurting one another.
You and i have being hurt by people we hold so dear to our hearts and at times the hurt is so deep, we do not want to let go or forgive. We can over react over certain issues some times and decide to keep our distance but a brother once told me that no matter who is at fault, telling your partner "AM SORRY' not only makes you sort out a lot of issues that would have gone wrong, it also puts you above the person and takes away the power of the other party from saying wrong things about you.
Taking action instead of reacting is one of the steps of showing your sense of maturity. Maturity is proven when you apply what you have known and be the first to say AM SORRY.
A lot of people find it difficult to apologize but i have come to learn over time that there is power in apologizing. Your hurt may be justified by your actions but letting go of the hurt only shows the prisoner you thought was caged was actually you.
Uhmmm, you heard me right. So dear visitors, get off your high horse and call that person you hurt or hurt you and say AM Sorry. E hugs
Tatafo Section
Hey my people! some persons can lie for a country ooo, no be small thing. they over exaggerate issues either to boost their image or ruin another person's reputation or cover up their misdeeds.
Hmmmm, i have seen people lying so convincingly that you confuse the lie for truth. Men lie , women lie but what do you benefit from lying all the time? People lie about their where about on phone, they lie to their spouses and family members, they lie about their job, marital status, income and whatever BUT do i have to confirm from my wristwatch when you greet me good morning before you know your lies are too obvious to be ignored?
You need One million lies to back up one lie and at the end of everything, the truth would still standout. I would not tell you that all liars would go to hell as you expect pastors to shove at your face but that your Integrity is highly questioned when you are known to always tell lies.
Abeg ooo repent and stop lying.
Just dey lie there,
Linus, Olainyinka, De laila.
Lol "Tongue Out".
Paradise in a swamp
on August 31st while driving down from Wuse 2, i noticed a huge crowd looking down the overhead bridge. Underneath the bridge was found a wrecked jeep destroyed beyond repairs but my greatest amazement was what i discovered under that bridge. Therein lie another world. You never know such an economy exists even in the beautiful city of abuja.
Now this discovery made me reflect on the number of people living in unhealthy environments trying to find a living. its a different world on its own. My people, that is their paradise.
while i was gasping at the extent of the accident, i saw a woman busy at the other end of the bridge preparing food to sell to her customers while these prospects waited on her. Less than a minute from that angle, are a group of young men gathering sand from a flowing drainage and another arranging different items. All these were happening under the bridge. Hmm.. what a world we live in .
So dear readers always appreciate God for where ever you are.
Now this discovery made me reflect on the number of people living in unhealthy environments trying to find a living. its a different world on its own. My people, that is their paradise.
while i was gasping at the extent of the accident, i saw a woman busy at the other end of the bridge preparing food to sell to her customers while these prospects waited on her. Less than a minute from that angle, are a group of young men gathering sand from a flowing drainage and another arranging different items. All these were happening under the bridge. Hmm.. what a world we live in .
So dear readers always appreciate God for where ever you are.
Tuesday, 8 September 2015
lets hear from you 2.
ARE YOU GROWING?
If you went to
primary and Junior secondary Schools at the time I did which, was in the early
to middle nineties, you may have come across this acronym MR NIGER D which
stands for Death, Respiration, Excretion, Growth, etc funny right? But I’m
concerned more with the letter G, which is Growth.
We grow everyday
especially physically except you have had a drink from the fabled fountain of
youth (pirates of the Caribbean). If you observe closely you are a little bit
or a whole different from how you where some 20years ago, 10 years ago, last
year and even a month ago. These changes can be referred to as physical growth
and we don’t stop growing till we die
My question is
how many of us have really GROWN! In terms of Spiritually, Mentally, Relationship
wise, and Career wise. If the difference between what you know now and what you
knew a while back or even yesterday, is still the same, then it might be safe
to assume that at the point you are, growth has stopped and that in itself is
dangerous (likened to death).
I could choose
to ramble and school us about growing, but that would be me being
self-righteous. And since I am not, I’ll share this quote from a renowned
leadership and growth teacher John Mason. It reads; To discover your purpose,
you need to grow in self awareness. To become a better human being, you need to
grow in character. To advance in your career you need to grow in your skills.
To be a better spouse or parent, you need to grow in relationships. To reach
your financial goals, you need to grow in knowledge about how money works. To
enrich your soul, you need to grow spiritually.
Now the choice
is yours, to keep GROWING or to ATROPHY (Die slowly) while you still live.
Credit : Andrew Ohifuemen
Saturday, 5 September 2015
Pot of thoughts 4
Positive thinking starts with self talk. These thoughts can be positive or negative . Some comes from logic and reason while others arise from misconceptions that you create because of lack of information. If our thoughts are mostly negative, our outlook on life is more likely pessimistic while a positive thinking is optimistic.
Benefits of positive thinking :
a. It increases life span .
b. Lowers rates of depression and levels of distress.
c.Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress.
d. Better psychological and physical well being
How to turn negative thinking to positive thinking .
1. Identify areas of change: identify areas of our life that you typically think negatively about whether it works. You can start small by focusing on how to approach issues in a more positive way.
2. Check your self: periodically stop and evaluate what you are thinking and find a way to spin a negative thought to a positive thought.
3. be open to humor : seek hunit in every day happening. When you laugh at life , you feel less stressed.
4. Surround your self with positive people: make sure those around you are positive people you can depend on to give helpful advice and feed back.
5. Practice positive self talk: don't say anything to yourself, you won't say to anyone else. Be gentle and encouraging to your self .
A positive attitude causes a chain of reaction of positive thoughts events and outcomes. It is a catalyst and it sparks extra ordinary results . Wade Boggs .
Dear visitors, please work on your thoughts. Poppa I have to attend to an emergency. See u soonest.
Benefits of positive thinking :
a. It increases life span .
b. Lowers rates of depression and levels of distress.
c.Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress.
d. Better psychological and physical well being
How to turn negative thinking to positive thinking .
1. Identify areas of change: identify areas of our life that you typically think negatively about whether it works. You can start small by focusing on how to approach issues in a more positive way.
2. Check your self: periodically stop and evaluate what you are thinking and find a way to spin a negative thought to a positive thought.
3. be open to humor : seek hunit in every day happening. When you laugh at life , you feel less stressed.
4. Surround your self with positive people: make sure those around you are positive people you can depend on to give helpful advice and feed back.
5. Practice positive self talk: don't say anything to yourself, you won't say to anyone else. Be gentle and encouraging to your self .
A positive attitude causes a chain of reaction of positive thoughts events and outcomes. It is a catalyst and it sparks extra ordinary results . Wade Boggs .
Dear visitors, please work on your thoughts. Poppa I have to attend to an emergency. See u soonest.
Heart cries 4
Going down memory lane , I remember that as young children, there were words we could not say because you would be regarded as wayward children. Then, the rate of sexual perversion was a bit curtailed and crime rate was not as hineous as it is now. These days , people talk about their sexual escapades without impunity and things that were meant to be heard only behind closed doors and for the ears of adults only is now discussed publicly.
I have heard Ladies talk about their sexual experiences like its a norm and married women advising friends whose husbands are busy and hardly around to engage in extra marital affairs without regards to their marital vows. A lot of people would say this is the jet age and people are more enlightened than they were before. But , I do know that whatever was not cuturally accepted before would not still be , no matter the level of exposure.
Sexual perversion as defined by Wikipedia is a type of human behavior that deviates from that which is understood to be normal. They could be abnormal, repulsive or obsessive. There are a whole lot of sexual perversion on going but I would list a few. They include masturbation, sodomy, homosexuality, lesbianism, transgender, pedophiles, bestiality, necrophilia, fetishes, sadomasochism, incest amongst others.
In as much as a whole lot of people want to be trendy, I strongly recommend we allow God's word create in us a heart that would trust and love God only and not allow the deceitful ness of this life away us away from his loving grace.
I have heard Ladies talk about their sexual experiences like its a norm and married women advising friends whose husbands are busy and hardly around to engage in extra marital affairs without regards to their marital vows. A lot of people would say this is the jet age and people are more enlightened than they were before. But , I do know that whatever was not cuturally accepted before would not still be , no matter the level of exposure.
Sexual perversion as defined by Wikipedia is a type of human behavior that deviates from that which is understood to be normal. They could be abnormal, repulsive or obsessive. There are a whole lot of sexual perversion on going but I would list a few. They include masturbation, sodomy, homosexuality, lesbianism, transgender, pedophiles, bestiality, necrophilia, fetishes, sadomasochism, incest amongst others.
In as much as a whole lot of people want to be trendy, I strongly recommend we allow God's word create in us a heart that would trust and love God only and not allow the deceitful ness of this life away us away from his loving grace.
Tuesday, 28 July 2015
Pots of thoughts 3
I woke up on Saturday at a friend 's house at about 5.30am and found her 13 years old daughter sweeping the floor. She proceeded to attending to the kitchen chores and later made breakfast. I was watching in unbelief knowing that children from very wealthy background are spoilt by thier parents who surround them with maids and nannies. I could not hold it back but ask my hostess why she does not have maids to take care of her children and the house? She told me she can't spoil her children all in the name of being wealthy and that the time she needed house helps was when they were still babies but now they must learn the basic chores especially the female children. Immediately my mind went to this scripture in Prov 22 vs 6 "train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it".
That encounter with that young lady teaches everyone out there not to spoil their children all in the name of " I don't want my children to suffer what I suffered". Do you know some young ladies have lost great husbands because they cannot put a simple meal together.
I have seen children who cannot carry their school bags themselves when going to school because the driver is supposed to carry it for them. We even have adults with nasty attitudes because that's how they were brought up.
I strongly recommend to parents to kindly allow thier children learn the basic home making habits and manners no matter the volume of wealthy they possess, so that these children don't end up encountering problems in the future.
On a softer note, my grand mother once asked my cousin whose wealthy father won't hear them get close to the kitchen to assist in fetching charcoal from a bag to enable her roast corn. The young lady replied " grandma, Pls what is charcoal?" Ha this na serious matter oooo. Please parents wise up.
That encounter with that young lady teaches everyone out there not to spoil their children all in the name of " I don't want my children to suffer what I suffered". Do you know some young ladies have lost great husbands because they cannot put a simple meal together.
I have seen children who cannot carry their school bags themselves when going to school because the driver is supposed to carry it for them. We even have adults with nasty attitudes because that's how they were brought up.
I strongly recommend to parents to kindly allow thier children learn the basic home making habits and manners no matter the volume of wealthy they possess, so that these children don't end up encountering problems in the future.
On a softer note, my grand mother once asked my cousin whose wealthy father won't hear them get close to the kitchen to assist in fetching charcoal from a bag to enable her roast corn. The young lady replied " grandma, Pls what is charcoal?" Ha this na serious matter oooo. Please parents wise up.
Sunday, 19 July 2015
HEART CRIES 3
When ever I hear about the death of an individual , it puts me in a sober mood. No wonder the bible says it is better to be in the house of mourning than in the house of rejoicing. Sober reflection mood actually puts you back on check, knowing all Human struggles, pursuits, fame, cravings, accomplishments, desires, would all end the day you take your last breath. " hmm there is nothing in this life. All is vanity so says ecclesiastics".
We need to always remember that as each day passes by, so are we moving closer to the end point of life and as such, we need to live our lives as if it's the last and be careful how we treat people around us, the kind of life we live, the things we get involved with and many others. Rejoice with people who are rejoicing and celebrate other people's progress because in all you are learning a lesson or finding courage to move on through thier accomplishments.
Have you thought of making an impact in this generation or do you want to be like others who when it's their turn, would fizzle out as if they never walked past this earth? A friend put up a post on Facebook that we have 165 days as at today to the end of year 2015. Would you say your life has counted over these years or months ?
I crave your indulgence dear visitors, to reflect more on your life and strive to make an impact because your eulogy after you pass on would tell the world who you were.
Rest in peace Pastor Paul of FWC Lugbe.
We need to always remember that as each day passes by, so are we moving closer to the end point of life and as such, we need to live our lives as if it's the last and be careful how we treat people around us, the kind of life we live, the things we get involved with and many others. Rejoice with people who are rejoicing and celebrate other people's progress because in all you are learning a lesson or finding courage to move on through thier accomplishments.
Have you thought of making an impact in this generation or do you want to be like others who when it's their turn, would fizzle out as if they never walked past this earth? A friend put up a post on Facebook that we have 165 days as at today to the end of year 2015. Would you say your life has counted over these years or months ?
I crave your indulgence dear visitors, to reflect more on your life and strive to make an impact because your eulogy after you pass on would tell the world who you were.
Rest in peace Pastor Paul of FWC Lugbe.
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